Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Na, Na, Na, Na, Na, Not Batman

I apologize for being a day late and a dollar short on this post, it as crazy this weekend and I just didn't have time to sit at the computer and do a blog post, but here we go.

My heart goes out to all of the families of the victims of the  Aurora Colorado shootings.  It goes out to the victims still alive recovering in the hospital and it goes out to the ones who lost their lives in the shooting.  My heart goes out to everyone in Aurora Colorado.  I could never imagine, nor would I want to imagine a scenario like that where you go to a movie and someone comes in and opens fire on the crowd.  Men, women, children.  Father, mothers, brothers, sisters.  It is horrible and I once again I cannot even imagine what my life would be like if I lost the Trophy and the Minions.

There are a ton of stories out there all on different media sources, all covering the same incident at different angles.  Some cover the story from the victim's point of view, some cover the story from an outsider's point of view and some even cover the story from the shooter's point of view.  There are so many different stories about the shooting one cannot possibly read or watch them all.  We all know the general gist of the what happened and the shooter has been caught.  Yes, I am calling him the shooter because I do not want to mention this douche's name, he doesn't deserve the recognition.

One trend I am seeing with a lot of these stories is the media and non-media now calling the it the "Batman Massacre" or the "Batman Shooting".  I knew that was going to happen when I woke up in the morning and heard the news on the radio.  At that point it was still the "Aurora Shooting" or something similar and had nothing to do with Batman.  And that is my point, it has nothing to do with Batman.  Bruce Wayne didn't enter the theater and open fire, his alter ego didn't swoop in and kill these people, even the villain Bane didn't murder and harm these people.  They are fictitious characters.

The nickname "Batman Shooting" caught on like wildfire and soon there were hundreds of Photoshoped images of Batman crying for the victims, new black support ribbons and even a post that went viral demanding Christian Bale dress up as Batman and visit the victims in the hospital.  All of these things are great gestures and are good for moral but people need to realize one thing.  People cannot blame the movie, comic books, video games or even the novels.  There is only one person to blame and that is the piece of shit who pulled the trigger.

This has been a disturbing trend for a while now, people trying to find other things to blame for someone's actions. "Oh he stabbed that person because he watched Friday the 13th" or "She sucked so many dicks because of Debbie Does Dallas.". No, no, fucking no. You can only blame the person who did the action. When a movie is made, I'm sure the director and producer did not sit there and say, "Gosh, I hope we make a bazillion dollars AND we cause someone to go on a rampage."

Granted things have changed since I was a youth and the movies, TV shows and video games have become more graphic and more realistic, but chances are the person who decides to go hunt zombies and accidentally kills a person, was probably tapped in the head to begin with, the zombie movie didn't mysteriously do it.

Growing up I watched cartoons, lots of cartoons. What kid didn't watch cartoons on a Saturday morning in the 80's? I watched cartoons like He-Man, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Voltron, Transformers, G.I. Joe and even Thundercats. I pretended to be characters from the cartoons, in fact when I would go over a friend's house after school we would play Transformers and we got to choose five Autobots we could turn into. We always chose the good guys. Sure we built play guns and swords out of Construx and pretended to fight the Decepticons, Cobra, and Shredder but not once did we say, let's go kill someone in real life.

I read X-Men comic books, I never thought to myself that I should go and cleanse the world of non superior beings. Did I make a Wolverine claw out of an old work glove and three of my mom's knitting needles? Sure I did, but never went berserker on anyone with it. I grew up with the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, they were created in the area I lived, I've met the creators, read the comics, watched the cartoon and movies. I made a set of nunchucks and took an old broom stick and pretended to be Michalangelo and Donatello but the only victims where some trees and their branches, they suffered the ninja experience.

I watched Star Wars, the old Batman movies, Rambo and even the classic Nightmare on Elm Street and Friday the 13th. Again, not once, did I think to myself, let me go and get a giant knife and gut my parents or my school mates. I never wanted to dump poison into the town's drinking water supply or did I ever have an inclination to pull a blaster out and shoot an alien. My parents let me have cap guns and play swords, I didn't turn out to be mass murderer and none of my friends did either.

I grew up with video games, granted not as graphic as they are now, but we had Mortal Combat, Contra and Mike Tyson's Punchout. Again, playing these never made me go bat shit crazy.

I don't know, maybe I'm off the mark on this one and I'm sure many people will dispute and argue with me until they are blue in the face but I feel that the problem isn't in the video games, movies, comic books and TV shows. The problem stands at a different level. What level it is, I don't know. I probably will never know but one thing I do know is before you go looking for something to pass the blame on, take a good hard look in the mirror. People are responsible for their own actions. This isn't just the nut jobs who are shooting up movie theaters, killing multiple victims or raping someone, this is also the people raising the nut jobs.

There I said it, if you bring a kid into this world, don't fuck them up. Be a parent, do your job and show them the difference between Autobots and Decepticons, G.I. Joe and Cobra, Thor and Loki, good and evil. Educate them about right and wrong.


  1. I agree with you on 99.5% of this Kevin. I read a blo yesterday that disturbed me with the number of moms who are vigilantly refusing to allow their children to play with guns because they think it will cause their children to become cold, insensitive killers. It's nonsense for all the reasons you pointed out. And I agree that parents need to step up and parent, making sure the line between reality and fiction is not blurred. That said, there is a wonderful post out there by Mouthy Barber Wifehttp://mouthybarbermom.blogspot.com/2012/07/the-darkness.html that explains pretty much why the parents are not always to blame. Excellent post Kevin. Well put.

  2. No, I'm not blaming all the parents and in fact after reading the post you referred me to is making me almost wish I didn't write the last few lines of this post. With that being said I am keeping them in there, not because I exactly feel that all nut jobs had bad parents but more for the parents who don't take an invested interest in their children, I understand that, like Mouthy Barber Wife put, some kids are born into this world "broken".

    The main thing I hope people get out of this post is don't go looking for something or someone else to blame for the actions of another. As a geek, it pisses me off to hear silly things like video games getting blamed for a killing...if the kid is under 18, who bought or allowed the video game system and video game into the house?

    You are correct the parents are not always to blame.

    1. Good point - absolutely agree. People need to stop scapegoating whenever something like this happens. Accountability on the part of those involved is key.

  3. I wholeheartedly agree! Now for crap that bugs me: the use of the word "allegedly" by the media. I know they have to use it - I know everyone is innocent until proven guilty. The newscasters around here are so careful to make sure they use the words "alleged" or "allegedly" that they repeat it several times in one sentence. This isn't a direct quote, but just an example: "The shit nugget allegedly opened fire at the Batman movie, where he allegedly killed and/or injured several people. The alleged killer appeared in court today, and did not speak a word about his alleged behavior."

    I bet the loved ones of the victims wish that they were only "allegedly" dead, becuase then there would still be a possibility that they were still alive.

  4. Thunder..Thunder...Thundercats! Hoooooo!

    Now that I got that out of the way, I agree with you. Sure movies and video games may give these people the sick ideas to do such things, but it is totally the responsibility of the person who acts out this madness.

    Aside from the sick and twisted shooting incident, I find it equally disturbing that newspapers and TV networks are jumping all over this not to bring us the news, but to divert attention to their businesses. Adding labels such as "The Batman Shooting" to the incident is proof. They think with a catchy name the people will find it more appealing. What's wrong with just a simple "Tragedy in Aurora"? Apparently that is too boring.

  5. Being a kid in these times is hard and often it's even harder for the parents. With state child protection offices having more power than God in some states and dictating how parents can discipline their children, and with the ever increasing exposure the kids have to outside influences it's hard to know how effective you're being as a parent. One thing I thought was extremely telling was that in the first day of news about the massacre, when the mother was contacted by the news station, prior to being contacted by law enforcment, she didn't say "It couldn't be my son!" or anything remotely similar. She said, "It's my son." Obviously there were some warning signs for that mother.

    1. I thought the same thing, Blondie. Then yesterday I read that what she said was taken out of context. I guess they asked her if she was (insert whatever her name is here) and she said "You have the right person." Meaning, they were speaking to the right person, but I guess they turned it around to make it look like she was talking about her son? I don't know. So many different news sources and angles to this story, it's hard to know. You're so right about how difficult it is being a parent these days.

  6. Well said Kevin and Blondie's comment is absolutely spot on.
    It feels like as a parent, we no longer have the right to instill discipline into our kids but when we don't, we're held accountable for that too.

    People always need someone to blame and in this case, many are blaming his up-bringing. But as the heartbreaking post that mod mom pointed out, it isn't always that simple.

    Great post.

  7. Kevin, thanks so much for your comment. You're right. Everyone needs a scapegoat & most often, the finger is first pointed at the parents. While in some cases that would be accurate, it just isn't always the cut-and-dried truth of the matter.
    Lily & Blondie as parents we are judged for disciplining our children & judged for not disciplining them enough. I guess the answer is to just muddle along as best we can. Pay attention & be involved. I have two children who are "Whole". I question. I invest the time. They're great kids. Thoughtful, funny, & appreciative (mostly). Two outta three ain't bad...

  8. Nice posting and I def agree with Blondie's comment. I know in years past things happened, but I don't remember them happening like they do now- on a weekly/monthly basis. It somehow feels odd that we are hearing more and more. It often makes me feel like, Is there something in the water? Something poisoning the food? Something isn't right, or so it feels that way. :/ I agree, I played video games too- even the dreaded Doom and Grand Theft Auto and it was just that, a game. Enjoyed reading your posting.

  9. Great post Kevin. I have been watching Fox News and they refer to it as the Movie Theatre Massacre. That I can deal with because that is what it is. It has nothing to do with Batman, I think he was just looking for a big crowd. It could have happened at Twilight. I also agree with your other points. Personally, I am pro gun. My husband is a hunter and both my boys have their own compound bows and pellet guns. However, we have always drilled it into their heads the proper use for them and they are never to be pointed at somebody or used on a person. They are very respectful of that fact and if they wern't then they wouldn't have them. They know they are not toys. It was a said event, I just pray that the other sickos out there don't copycat, as I am sure you have heard about the guy from Maine. Sad days we live in my friend.

  10. @ everybody - thanks guys, I thought I was goingntombe ripped apart for this post. Makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who feels this way.

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  12. Thank you for posting this!! The only part I have a slight disagreement with is the part about the parents, only because some parents do try--some people are just born that way. However, having been referred to the Mouthy Barber Mom's post, I see that you see that now and so I won't bitch at all :) I love reading your blog, keep it up!!